In the Introduction to the Killer D’s and the Empowering E’s (Part 1 of 3), we briefly looked at how the practice of these specific words that begin with the letter “D” tend to derail or “kill off” communication, connection and intimacy, within ourselves and in relationships that are important to us (Spouse, Children, Parents, … More “The Killer D’s and the Empowering E’s” (Part 2 of 3)

Something deep within tells me this just isn’t going to end very well. Would you agree?  And so it is with the use of “The Killer D’s” (to be offset by the Empowering E’s).  The Killer D’s are words that begin with the letter “D” and describe processes that I see in my counseling office … More Introduction to “The Killer D’s and The Empowering E’s” (Part 1 of 3)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) Prize is one of the 10 descriptors of Agape, the unique form of love that our Higher Power helps us to develop for our personal benefit and subsequently to be freely, maturely and respectfully demonstrated with others Prize (Brabeion and Stephanos – NT): … More Who gets the Prize?

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) Recorded below are some thoughts on I Corinthians 13:4-8a. I suggest these to you right now because in light of what you both have experienced, love has been and will always be the answer, the goal, the destination, the focus and the solution. … More Uncommon Love: A few thoughts on 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

(This excerpt is taken from Addiction Saboteurs – Slips, Relapses and My Course Correction in Cultivating Love: Finishing Strong by Dr Ken McGill) What follows are some suggestions for you to consider implementing if you have been experiencing slips or relapses in your life.  Please, take what you can use and pass this along to … More Recovery, Getting Refocused (Addiction, Part 2)

(This excerpt is taken from Addiction Saboteurs – Slips, Relapses and My Course Correction in Cultivating Love: Finishing Strong by Dr Ken McGill) The purpose of this assignment is to identify the thoughts, feelings, behavior, and situations that may arise in your life that could lead to a Slip or a Relapse. A Slip (often called … More An Autopsy of My Relapse (Addiction, Part 1)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love and Renewal by Dr Ken McGill) As with any work you do, you will need to take breaks. Becoming skilled at loving yourself and others infer that you will demonstrate patience, which is beautifully captured in the picture above. Being patient, which I remind you is a cultivated skill originally … More Cultivating Love: A process to change, heal and grow (Part 4 of 4)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love and Renewal by Dr Ken McGill) The tools we use to grow love are many and varied in use and in function. We become aware of our need to have tools when adverse situations arise in our life (affairs, loss and grief, boundary failures, traumatization, etc.), or in times of … More Cultivating Love: A process to change, heal and grow (Part 3 of 4)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love and Renewal by Dr Ken McGill) Each person has 7 primary “rows” or life areas in the garden of their life, in which some form of work is to be done each day. The rows are simply labeled Spiritual, Cognitive, Emotional, Physical/Biological, Sexual, Social/Relational and finally Environmental. Each day, we … More Cultivating Love: A process to change, heal and grow (Part 2 of 4)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love and Renewal by Dr Ken McGill) It all starts right here…with the soil. If anything is going to grow it begins with the energy that is available in the soil to begin the transformation. We will grow something. Biblical Insight: Transformation begins with the 3 things not created by Man, … More Cultivating Love: A process to change, heal and grow (Part 1 of 4)