Cultivating Love: Choosing Change is available at Amazon!

Cultivating Love: Choosing Change is available for purchase at Amazon! It’s with great joy that I’m able to announce the eighth and final book in the Cultivating Love series, Cultivating Love: Choosing Change is available for purchase in the Amazon bookstore!  Click here to order the Kindle or Paperback version. What’s in the book… Cultivating … More Cultivating Love: Choosing Change is available at Amazon!

Focusing on goals that matter in 2024!

Yesterday my wife and I were talking about leaving 2023 and hoping to experience a much better 2024. This past year was incredibly difficult on both of us, with my cancer diagnosis (and eventual prostatectomy in November) and her returning to work full-time to support our family. I’m so thankful for her and Gabriel, as they’ve encouraged … More Focusing on goals that matter in 2024!

Emotional #10: Your Emotional Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To develop Emotional Healthy Adult Mode behaviors due to your connection with a loving God.      Your Emotions are biological, physiological, and psychological messengers that are “hard-wired” into your being and are gifts from God in that they help you to experience a range of emotions such as happiness, anger, joy, fear, surprise, disgust, shame, … More Emotional #10: Your Emotional Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

The Triple P’s of Loving Others: PREPARE, PEACE and PASSION by Dr. Ken McGill 

Download a printer-friendly PDF of the Triple A’s of Loving Yourself and the Triple P’s of Loving Your Neighbor the-triple-as-and-ps-of-loving-yourself-and-your-neighbor-by-dr.-ken-mcgill-2023 Use this quick-reference chart to prepare your mind to create then employ the best cognitive (and spiritual and emotional) strategies to generate peace and passion with those you love. As mentioned in previous posts, give … More The Triple P’s of Loving Others: PREPARE, PEACE and PASSION by Dr. Ken McGill 

The Triple A’s of Loving Yourself: ASSESS, ATTEND and ATTUNE by Dr. Ken McGill

Download a printer-friendly PDF of the Triple A’s of Loving Yourself and the Triple P’s of Loving Your Neighbor the-triple-as-and-ps-of-loving-yourself-and-your-neighbor-by-dr.-ken-mcgill-2023 Use this quick-reference chart to reflect on areas of your life that deserve your assessment (to change), attention (to heal), and energy to create internal and eventually interpersonal attunement (to grow). As mentioned in previous … More The Triple A’s of Loving Yourself: ASSESS, ATTEND and ATTUNE by Dr. Ken McGill

Cognitive #12: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 – Loving Your Neighbor)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Your Neighbor. This has to be one of the most important entries in the Healthy Adult Mode series, and allow me to share why I’ve reached this conclusion.  Most human beings are relational beings, and as such we’d like to experience various types of … More Cognitive #12: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 – Loving Your Neighbor)

Cognitive #11: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Yourself “The concept of differentiation has to do with self and not with others.  Differentiation deals with working on one’s own self, with becoming a more responsible person, and permitting others to be themselves” – Murray Bowen (Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, p. 468). One … More Cognitive #11: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Cognitive #10: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors due to your connection with a loving God “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better.  I pray also that the eyes of your heart may … More Cognitive #10: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Spiritual #12: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 — Loving Your Neighbor) 

Goal: To develop Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Your Neighbor In Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors, Part 1 of 3, we looked at the 19 core components of Agape Love, how they serve as a foundation for Healthy Adult Mode behavior, and how God would like to pour these into our … More Spiritual #12: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 — Loving Your Neighbor) 

Spiritual #11: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Goal: To develop Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Yourself You may recall my shortened definition of Wisdom is “to become skilled in living,” and a word-picture of the Greek word Sophia describes Wisdom as an artist, or any person standing before a blank canvas, who creates (with God’s help, inspiration and guidance) a beautiful picture that depicts their life one … More Spiritual #11: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Spiritual #10: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To understand the nature of God (His Love and Wisdom for Our Heart) as Healthy Adults  “We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity” – Step 2 “We love because He first loved us” – I John 4:19 (TNIV) Healthy Adult Characteristic #1 – LOVE: You knew … More Spiritual #10: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)