Tag: marriage

The 5 P’s for Growing Better Relationships

February 6, 2026

Cultivating a thriving relationship is a lot like gardening; here’s a few pointers for your success! (Inspired by the book Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life) 2. Pull the Weeds, Plant the Seeds 3. Prioritize Attunement Internally and Externally 4. Practice Listening, Affirming and “U-Turning” 5. Produce Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors Bonus P: Pray, or practice any spiritual discipline (service, … More The 5 P’s for Growing Better Relationships

Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies to get the most from the 8 C’s of Internal Family Systems (2.0 – Loving Others version)

June 12, 2025

This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated Wisdom. These … More Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies to get the most from the 8 C’s of Internal Family Systems (2.0 – Loving Others version)

Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies to get the most from the 8 C’s of Internal Family Systems (2.0 – Loving Others version)

June 12, 2025

This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated … More Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies to get the most from the 8 C’s of Internal Family Systems (2.0 – Loving Others version)

Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 4: Communication and Emotional Support)

May 21, 2025

This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes.   Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to … More Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 4: Communication and Emotional Support)

Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 3: Physical Affection and Closeness)

May 21, 2025

This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes.   Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to … More Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 3: Physical Affection and Closeness)

Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 2: Affirmation, Appreciation and Trust)

May 21, 2025

This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes.   Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to … More Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 2: Affirmation, Appreciation and Trust)

Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 1: Emotional Safety and Presence)

May 21, 2025

This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes.   Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to … More Wisdom Tool: 100 Attachment and Attunement Solutions (Part 1: Emotional Safety and Presence)

31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #31: Self-Control

April 23, 2025

Flavor 31 – Self-Control (Enkrateia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Self-Control (or Enkrateia in Greek), the last of the nine Fruit of the Spirit, is the end result of a very fruitful process of growth.  Just like the previous eight fruits of the Spirit, Self-Control is deeply rooted in … More 31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #31: Self-Control

31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #30: Peace

April 23, 2025

Flavor #30: Peace (Shalom; Eirene) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Peace encompasses more than the absence of conflict. The Hebrew word Shalom points to completeness, wholeness, well-being, and prosperity; a state where all aspects of life are in harmony. Similarly, the Greek term Eirene conveys tranquility and restfulness. Together, these terms illustrate that true peace … More 31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #30: Peace

31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation

April 23, 2025

Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation (Prautes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Prautes, often translated as “gentleness,” embodies strength under control.  According to Aristotle, Prautes represents the mean between excessive anger and a complete lack of it, signifying the ability to express anger appropriately, at the right time, in the … More 31 Flavors of Wisdom – Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation