Flavor #16: Discretion  (Sekel; Mezimmah; Tebunah)

(Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom)

Meaning, Essence and Significance: Discretion embodies the judicious application of knowledge, enabling you to make decisions with prudence, insight and tact. The Hebrew term Sekel refers to intelligence and success, emphasizing discernment that guides your ability to make careful and thoughtful actions and decisions.  Mezimmah denotes prudence and thoughtful planning, highlighting the importance of aligning your intentions with behavior that is honorable and upright. Tebunah infers your use of insight, intelligence and understanding to deliver wise behavior to others as you “personify wisdom.” Together, these concepts illustrate discretion as the capacity to think and filter your thoughts, words, and actions through a mindset focused on making careful and honorable decisions that result in positive outcomes and the development of trustworthiness in your relationships.​

Practical Appearance and Nutritional Value: Discretion manifests as the conscious choice to withhold words that may harm, even when deemed “justified.” It involves restraint, seasoned with wisdom, such as pausing before engaging in difficult conversations, opting for prayer over gossip, and recognizing the value of waiting over forcing outcomes. This flavor is rich in emotional and relational benefits; it protects reputations, maintains peace, and promotes spiritual growth and connection with others. Discretion is not about repression but the disciplined freedom to act in ways that reflect excellence of character versus defaulting to an old, familiar and convenient “losing strategy.” It entails knowing what to say, when to say it, and when silence is more powerful.​

Who deserves some of this seasoning?  “My children deserve a ‘generous shake’ of discretion from me!  They need to witness this form of wisdom in action, not merely through instruction but through my lived example. This means being mindful of my speech, responding thoughtfully under stress, and demonstrating humility when at fault. It also involves guiding rather than controlling, inquiring rather than accusing, and listening more than lecturing. By embodying discretion, my aim is to provide them with thoughtful boundaries, honest conversations, and a model of living wisely amidst the challenges we face in life.”  

So thanks again for looking at these 31 Flavors of Wisdom and hopefully, participating in the 31 Day Wisdom Challenge, and for reading this excerpt from Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life. As time permits, please visit the other blogs written by Dr. Ken McGill: Daily Bread for Life and “3–2- 5–4–24” for additional information that could be helpful.