(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) “Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up” — James 4: 9–10 (NIV). I wrote this paragraph during the Christmas Holidays of 2012, and I wrote it with … More Growing through Grief: Why Grief and anything that “grounds” us could be good

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface from Dr Ken McGill) Recorded here are some thoughts based in I Corinthians 13 as you consider the subject of recovering from infidelity. My thoughts about this passage of scripture and my comments are not meant to simplify the issue nor persuade you to make an quick, … More Uncommon Love: Recovering from Unfaithfulness

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Enhancing Communication by Dr Ken McGill) A few tips to help you and your spouse create effective communication Listening occurs when… 1. …I silence the rebuttal going on in my head and cease listening defensively. 2. …I ask questions that help me to perceive, to know and to become familiar … More Are you listening to me? (Communication Part 2 of 2)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Enhancing Communication by Dr Ken McGill) A few tips to help you and your spouse create effective communication Speaking occurs when… 1. …I remember that the person that I am speaking to is not the enemy. 2. …I remember the reason I am speaking is to make things better. 3. … More Speaking to be Understood (Communication Part 1 of 2)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Finishing Strong by Dr Ken McGill) Do you remember the word Epithumia (defined at the end of the article), one of the five Greek words for Love? Well, there is additional insight for us to attain as we explore this word, which could prove to be pivotal in your overall … More Additional thoughts on Emotional Self-Awareness (Trust me, these are really important!)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) It’s hot, concentrated and has been under pressure. It’s earthy and may be bitter, sour, strong or sweet. If handled incorrectly, or misplaced, it could burn, but if managed well and accurately placed, this could be one of the best gifts you give … More Why did Freud call it “The Talking Cure?”

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Growing Character by Dr Ken McGill) In light of the comments made on the “Choices – Find …Yourself” document, I would love for you to read and integrate the scripture below to inform your study and support the comments with the outcome being your continued growth and personal transformation (2 … More Choices…Find Yourself…in God (Part 2 of 2)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Growing Character by Dr Ken McGill) I call this handout CHOICES, and in reading it I hope that you are simply reminded that you do have the ability to make healthy choices for yourself regarding the destination, the quality of life and to a large degree, the outcomes that you … More Choices…Find Yourself (Part 1 of 2)

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Enhancing Communication by Dr Ken McGill) When your communication becomes stalled in conflict and impasses and misunderstanding develop between the two of you, calling a “Time-Out” in order to repair the breakdown could be an effective strategy to help the two of you to get back on track with what you … More The Effective Use of Time-Outs in Conflict Resolution

(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: Enhancing Communication by Dr Ken McGill) What follows are some simple suggestions to assist you and your partner to respectfully resolve any conflict that is currently creating an impasse between the two of you. A   Attack the issue and not the person. Remember, the other person is not your enemy, … More The A-B-C’s of Fair Fighting and Conflict Resolution