Anger Management Tool: My Feelings Letter

Use these feeling stems/letter format to identify and work through your feelings connected to a person, or a past or current life experience.  Feel free to use other feeling words if they are not listed here.

Also, feel free to record “multiple entries” for any of the feeling stems listed (i.e., you may feel angry about have 2-3 issues at this time).  If you desire, give yourself permission to share your letter with a safe friend, Sponsor, Pastor, Therapist or if you are ready, with the person who you are writing the letter to.

Dear __________________________

1) Right now, I feel…

2) I am angry that…

3) I get angry when…

4) I feel frustrated…

5) I feel sad…

6) It hurts me…

7) I feel disappointed…

8) I’m afraid…

9) I worry…

10) I am grieving…

11) I feel depressed…

12) I feel ashamed…

13) I apologize…

14) I was wrong…

15) I understand…

16) I see your point about…

17) I imagine you feel…

18) I feel relief…

19) I appreciate…

20) I love…

21) In Conclusion…

As time permits, please read Experiencing and Expressing Anger Part 1 of 4, Part 2 of 4 and Part 3 of 4.  Feel free to leave a comment or pass this post to others who you think would like to read it and could benefit from the information.  By all means, please visit my other page at dr ken mcgill’s blog for more helpful counseling information.

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